What are the most loving, wisest and well-rounded people you’ve ever met? They’re likely to be those who have known defeat, misery, and heartbreak of losing someone or something they loved, and have found their way out of the depth of their misery and despair.
These types of people have been through a lot and have developed a sense of appreciation, sensitivity, and understanding of life.
Your past experiences make you who you are today, they can fill you with compassion, understanding and deep loving wisdom, people like this develop slowly over the course of time and are the strongest willed people to get over depression and despair.
When truly the hard time hits you and comes over you in waves because one bad never comes alone, it comes in a chain of reactions and the challenges you face are great if not the greatest you have ever faced.
You can either let the situation collapse you, define you or let it strengthen you, the choice is only yours to make.
In today’s article here a few powerful truths that will help you choose wisely and grow stronger as a person through your hardest of times.
1. Pain is part of love and life itself; it helps you grow.
We were thought at an early age that pain is evil and harmful instead of having it explained to us that it’s real and we will face it in our lifetime and how to be prepared for it, how should we deal with real-life when it comes over us if nobody teaches us?
Pain wakes someone up, just as we need to feel alive and loved, if we want to admit or not pain is part of the life and part of us, it is something we carry willingly, just like good sense.
You can only learn how much you love someone when you find the perfect one, and you can only learn how pain defines you only after you’ve been hit with a great deal of it.
It’s all in how you carry the things that don’t go our way, pain is a feeling and your feelings are part of you, embrace them. As I always like to remind myself, you cannot fully appreciate good times if you haven’t been thru bad times first.
You should stand up and appreciate pain, embrace it with your heart open – endure it – while it makes you scars you will carry for the rest of your life.
Deal with the realities of life and love, as you grow into the strongest, wisest, truest version of yourself.
Mind-Set is half the battle
Your mind-set is one of the most important things when it comes to difficult times, your mind likes to play games, to trick you it’s worse than it really is. In other words, your mind can be a real piece of shit when it comes to difficult times.
You need to overpower it and get out of the cycles you see yourself going to, the dark places, don’t let the lies and fears stop you from moving on.
Remember that fear is only as deep as your mind allows, and as much as you allow your mind to go, you are still in control of it, so take back control.
You can beat fear at its own game. It’s all in the mind-set you set it out to be, listen to your gut feeling, use it and fight fear. Remember that courage doesn’t mean you are not afraid, courage means you don’t let fear or anyone stay in your way. That you have the courage to confront whatever you are facing.
You are Growing Through experience.
Tough times will define you just as good and perfect times will, you cannot fully appreciate one without the other. Over time you will find that life isn’t any easier or harder than you thought it was going to be.
Your experiences and your will power will make you the person you are in the present, you have overcome the past, confronted fears and found love in this life, your experiences are your own and they define you, that’s what makes us unique and that’s why we can’t judge people.
“When you stop expecting things to be a certain way, you can appreciate them for what they are. Ultimately you will realize that life’s greatest gifts are rarely wrapped the way you expected.
Experience is what you get when your plans don’t go as planned, and experience is the most valuable commodity you own – it builds your strength.
You have the power to turn your wounds and worries into wisdom; you just have to do something about them. You have to accept what has happened and use what you’ve learned to step forward. Everything you’ve experienced has given you the upper hand for dealing with everything you have yet to experience. Realize this and set yourself free.”